Holiday stress where you work? You deserve joy on the job, even if people around you are in a foul mood. Build personal immunity to negativity in the workplace, including during the frantic holiday season. First, see through the illusions that create holiday stress. Then discover proven techniques that reduce tension and create happiness at work all year long.
by Doris Helge, Ph.D. © 2013
BLAST MYTHS THAT CREATE HOLIDAY STRESS
Myth #1: People are so stressed and depressed during the holiday season that everyone is miserable. Even the suicide rate rises.
Truth: The rate of suicide drops during the holidays because happiness is related to feeling connected to other people. Most of us attend more social gatherings during the holidays than any other time of year. Many workplaces also have fun organizing charity events that warm their hearts.
Myth #2: You have to be superhuman to get your usual job tasks done and attack an endless holiday to-do list.
Truth: If you believe this, it could become your reality because most people unconsciously feed each other’s anxiety like gasoline fuels a fire. The more you listen to people say, “This is an impossible season” and “My to-do list is overwhelming,” the more hopelessness will pervade your life. Instead, use the proven tips below to craft a joyful holiday season. Guard your precious energy and enjoy the holiday season at work.
SHIELD YOURSELF FROM NEGATIVITY AT WORK
Identify and say “No thank you” to sources of negativity that have nothing to do with you.
Notice frantic thoughts and emotions.
- Are they your true thoughts?
- When did they emerge?
- How were you feeling before you began to feel uneasy?
- How will you use your innate personal power to reframe negative thoughts and feelings?
We constantly create our reality with our thoughts and feelings. Imagination and emotion are generally more powerful than logic or “reality.” Your thoughts have oomph.
Focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want. Because of the way we’re hardwired, it’s critical to focus on your preferred outcome. Even a slight shift can empower you to program each day for happiness when you’re working.
REV UP YOUR INNATE ABILITY TO CREATE A JOYFUL WORK DAY
Positive anticipation is like a magic potion that creates happy feelings. The mere thought of achieving a goal makes feel-good chemicals flood your body. Prove this to yourself.
- Notice how you feel when you plan a fun event. When you anticipate something you’ll enjoy, you activate your brain’s pleasure center. You can begin being happy at work even before your reward materializes.
- Close your eyes. Observe your emotions when you imagine completing a task, like finishing a report and turning it in.
- It’s that simple . . . and YOU are that powerful. Just purposely give yourself something to look forward to so you can enjoy more happiness every time you do a work task.
- Imagine what it would be like to enjoy your preferred outcome. Savor that sweet sensation for at least 15 seconds. You’ve begun to create a positive neural network in your brain. With a little practice, this will expand over time.
- Set your intention to construct a new preferred highway of associative networks in your brain and decide how you’ll “anchor” what you want. Example: An action like touching your thumbs to your index fingers while you feel pleasurable emotions will stimulate your brain to create an automatic response you’ll be able to recall at will. Repeat this anchoring process until your new highway is strong and stable. This will keep you on track as you work toward your goal.
Your rewards will be amazing as long as you also take action to achieve your goals. Intention plus focused action can create just about anything you want, as long as your intention is related to your best interests and also positive for other people in some way.
Please allow me to stress the importance of taking action. Positive thinking, even when combined with the power of pleasurable feelings, will merely keep you out of the doldrums unless it’s coupled with focused action. If this type of personal empowerment technique is new to you, you may trigger some temporary feelings or thoughts like “This won’t work.”
Instead of feeling hopeless or giving up, just say “Hello” to your inner critic and resume your commitment to focused action toward your goal. Acknowledge, without resistance, any negative emotions that emerge. If your inner critic continues to emerge, watch the helpful videos at www.InnerCriticSolutions.com and then return to your mission.
PUT HOLIDAY STRESS AT WORK TO REST
Withdraw from the fray when other people unconsciously prod each other to fret about the future. Identify sources of negativity and don’t take on emotions and concerns that aren’t yours.
Focus on your preferred outcome. Use proven techniques and positive anticipation to guide you toward joy on the job all year. In this article, we explored one tried-and-true technique and I referred you to several helpful resources. To discover many more proven tips, enjoy the free “Happiness at Work Ecourse” excerpted with permission from the bestselling book, “Joy on the Job”.
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© 2014. This article was excerpted with permission from the bestselling book, “Joy on the Job” by Doris Helge, Ph.D. Permission to reprint this article is granted if the article is in tact, with proper credit given. All reprints must state “Reprinted with permission by Doris Helge, Ph.D. Originally published in “Joy on the Job,” http://MoreJoyOnTheJob.com.
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